ou’ve just walked out of The Refined Man looking sharp, feeling confident, and ready to take on the world. Your fade is crisp, your beard is lined to perfection, and that hot towel treatment has you feeling like a new man. Now what?
At The Refined Man, we believe that a great haircut is just the beginning of a great evening. Whether you’re planning a first date, celebrating an anniversary, or simply want to enjoy a night out in our beautiful capital city, Olympia offers the perfect backdrop for romance and connection.
Here’s our curated guide to the best date night spots in Olympia—all within easy reach of our barbershop at 1303 4th Ave E.
Start with Drinks: Setting the Mood
The Brotherhood Lounge
Downtown Olympia
Nothing says “I put effort into tonight” like a well-crafted cocktail in an intimate setting. The Brotherhood Lounge brings that speakeasy vibe to downtown Olympia, with dim lighting, leather seating, and bartenders who know their craft. Order something classic—a whiskey sour or old fashioned—and let the conversation flow. The atmosphere here is sophisticated without being stuffy, making it perfect for both new relationships and longtime couples looking to reconnect.
Orca Books Cafe
Downtown Olympia
For a more relaxed start to your evening, Orca Books offers local beer, wine, and the unique charm of browsing books together. There’s something inherently romantic about discovering each other’s literary tastes while sharing a bottle of Washington wine. Plus, if the conversation hits a lull, you’ve got thousands of conversation starters surrounding you on the shelves.
Dinner: Where Conversation Deepens
Oyster House
Downtown Olympia
Fresh Pacific Northwest seafood in an upscale yet approachable atmosphere—the Oyster House delivers on both fronts. Share a dozen fresh oysters as an appetizer (they’re an aphrodisiac for a reason), then move on to their expertly prepared salmon or spot prawns. The restaurant’s commitment to local, sustainable seafood gives you plenty to talk about, especially if your date appreciates environmental consciousness.
Le Voyeur
Downtown Olympia
This intimate French bistro has been setting the stage for romance in Olympia for years. The cozy interior, complete with candlelit tables and exposed brick walls, creates the perfect ambiance for deep conversation. Their menu features classic French dishes with Pacific Northwest influences—think coq au vin with local mushrooms or fresh halibut with herbed butter. Pro tip: Make a reservation, especially on weekends.
Mercato Ristorante
Downtown Olympia
For authentic Italian cuisine that encourages sharing, Mercato is your spot. Their handmade pasta dishes are perfect for the classic “try a bite of mine” moment, and their wine list features excellent selections from both Italy and Washington state. The warm, family-owned atmosphere makes it feel special without being intimidating.
Entertainment: Creating Memories
Washington Center for the Performing Arts
Downtown Olympia
Check their calendar before your date—catching a show together is a classic move that never goes out of style. Whether it’s live music, theater, or comedy, shared cultural experiences create lasting memories and give you plenty to discuss afterward. The venue itself is beautiful, and arriving looking sharp after your visit to The Refined Man ensures you’ll fit right in.
Capitol Theater
Downtown Olympia
For a more intimate entertainment experience, this historic venue hosts everything from indie films to live acoustic performances. The smaller setting means you can actually hear each other talk during intermission, and the historic charm adds character to your evening.
Hands On Children’s Museum (Evening Events)
Downtown Olympia
Don’t laugh—they host adults-only evening events that are surprisingly fun and engaging. Science experiments with cocktails? Building challenges that reveal your date’s competitive side? These events are perfect for couples who want to do something completely different and aren’t afraid to be a little playful.
Late Night: Keeping the Magic Going
Dancing Goats Coffee Bar
Eastside Olympia
If your date is going well and you want to extend the evening without the pressure of another full meal or more alcohol, Dancing Goats offers excellent coffee, pastries, and a relaxed atmosphere perfect for continued conversation. Their locally roasted coffee is some of the best in the city.
Olympia Farmers Market Area (Weekend Evenings)
Downtown Olympia
During farmers market season, the area around the market becomes a romantic spot for an evening stroll. The waterfront views of Budd Inlet, especially at sunset, provide a naturally beautiful backdrop. Pack light jackets—Pacific Northwest evenings can get cool, but that just gives you an excuse to stay close.
Percival Landing
Downtown Olympia
Speaking of waterfront views, Percival Landing offers some of the most romantic scenery in Olympia. Take a walk along the boardwalk, enjoy the marina views, and if you’re lucky, catch some live music from one of the outdoor events that happen throughout the summer and fall.
Pro Tips from The Refined Man
Timing is everything: Book your appointment at The Refined Man earlier in the day so you have time to relax before your date. That post-haircut confidence peaks about 2-4 hours after you leave the chair.
Dress to match your fresh cut: Your barber just made you look sharp—don’t waste it with a wrinkled shirt or scuffed shoes. The details matter.
Confidence is key: Remember, you didn’t just get a haircut—you invested in feeling your best. Carry that energy with you throughout the evening.
Plan, but stay flexible: Have a plan, but be ready to adapt if the moment calls for it. The best dates often include unexpected detours.
Focus on her: Yes, you look great, but the evening is about connection. Listen more than you talk, ask thoughtful questions, and be present.
The Bottom Line
Olympia may not be Seattle or Portland, but our capital city offers plenty of opportunities for memorable date nights. The key is choosing spots that match the energy and effort you put into looking your best. Whether you’re exploring downtown’s restaurant scene, catching a show, or simply walking along the water, the confidence that comes from a great grooming experience at The Refined Man sets the foundation for a great evening.
Ready to look sharp for your next date night? Book your appointment at The Refined Man Olympia today. Because when you look good, you feel good—and when you feel good, great things happen.